Random Thoughts: Invitations

A quick thought from Sabbath group last night…

I was reflecting with two of the guys about the difference between commands and invitations. Scott, who works for a sports club and frequently teaches afterschool programs, was talking about the noticeable difference in the behavior of his students when saying “Don’t do this” as opposed to “Hey, how about we do this?” The invitation seemed to work better. It’s anecdotal, of course, but you can probably also think of ways in which you see that played out in your own life.

We started reflecting on how our view of God through the years has changed in this regard as well. In the culture we grew up in, there seemed to be a message of “don’t” that was being told to us. People told us that God didn’t want us to drink, or smoke, or have sex, or swear. There wasn’t a message of “we invite you to do this” but rather a “if you do this, we will punish you.”As we’ve grown older, we’ve started to experience less of God telling us what not to do and more of God inviting us to grow with him.

This isn’t to say that there are certain decisions that are poor decisions. I think most of the reasons that the church communicated to us like that when we were younger were good reasons. They did have a good heart, but just poor execution. I think our challenge now is how to accept and forgive those mistakes, and move on, to create a world that is less about the don’t and more about an invitation to live together, in a beautiful mess.